Rule 2:
The world doesn't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
Rule 3:
You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school (after graduation). You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4:
If you think your teacher (lecturer) is tough, wait till you get a boss.
Rule 5:
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.
Rule 6:
If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7:
Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8:
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9:
Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off (semester break) and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.
Rule 10:
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11:
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
I used to believe in a boundary of physical touch between males & females. It's not about being open or close minded (refer to dictionary for actual definition of open minded & close minded if you don't get me). I just don't like the idea of touching here & there.
Sometimes a friendship touch between two different gender is very innocent & seriously there is no hidden message in it. & I do agree physical touch plays a role in relationship (GENERAL TERM) bonding. Some may say "C'mon it's nothing!". But I do know of certain individuals who are very sensitive to physical touches. Usually the touches reflects the level of intimacy between the two individuals & I do agree to it, but now I don't think so.
I'm seeing people who don't know each other really well/close but on physical contacts (note: I'm referring to male-female interactions) they appear intimate & close. There's also some who are real close but never made much physical contact. Now my question is this.
"Is it NECESSARY to touch the opposite gender friend on regular basis (intentionally or unintentionally, innocently or with motives, whatever reason)?"
What I mention regular basis? Because I do acknowledge the significance & power (meaning) of touch in special cases like prayer, affirmation, etc. My "regular basis" simply means when there is no need to do so.
Physical touch seems to be a norm among people nowadays. It's very normal now that "girls" are allowed to touch "guys" but not in reverse. What I mean is when "girls" touch "guys", it's nothing. But when "guys" touch "girls", some may consider it as serious as sexual harassment, or at least "fei lai" or "pok mong". It seems to me that males are to blamed in a way if anything goes wrong. Many may fail to realize that certain individuals are touch-meaning-sensitive.
I used to read & hear people asking, "What is the boundaries of areas or body part that we are allowed to touch"? Some general textbook answer will be nothing below neck & waist. Sounds familiar? This issue of physical boundaries & intimacy is normally raised during courtship counseling or those who desire to maintain purity before marriage. If some serious-want-to-marry couples take this issue of physical intimacy seriously, why those nothing more than a casual acquaintance behave like "we are bro & sis, yeah"?
Notice the use of girls & guys instead of males & females, & the previous paragraph. Get the point?
Again,
"What is the boundaries of areas or body part that we are allowed to touch"?
This question sounds very wrong to me. First of all if your conscience & intention is clear enough, why do you need a guideline on this? Trying to find justification where can touch & why to touch?
But all this is significantly influenced by local culture & a person's upbringing. For example some girls are very sensitive & do not welcome a hand on their waist or shoulder, while some consider it nothing. So be careful who do you touch. Some may appear OK, but actually they do not like it.
Physical touch may be a love language & should stay as real love language. Not some wanna-act-close-and-intimate. If the touch has no love (GENERAL TERM) in it as in closeness and intimacy (GENERAL TERM), it's just some bodily contacts.
I found a photo today that I thought I had lost it. It reminds me of her. It's the first picture I took with her, someone special to me. Don't get it wrong. She is just a special friend to me now. One of my first female close friend, a sister in Christ.
I looked kinda "budak bodoh" in the picture. Well it was five years ago when I'm still er....a Form 6 boy. Anyway it's my first time take a solo picture with a girl that time (really).
If you know I'm writing about you...... Somehow I hope you won't read this. But if you do, please pretend you didn't ok?
Thinking back about you, I still remember many many many things about the past, from the first day we met (almost six years already), up until today. All I wanted to say is really... thank you so much. Many things you never did it directly, or even realized but seriously you changed me a lot. Well it was actually because of you (you know I know la). One example? I learned my Mandarin because of you. Haha. You know the best thing? You played a major part in opening my heart to receive the Lord.
Now all of us are busy with own life but I still remember you always. I never told you this before. I actually enjoyed your presence a lot. The weird things is, sometimes I prefer to talk less when I see you. Not that I don't want to talk, but it seems like when you are around, even in silence my worries & sadness are gone. It's like I like to see you more than to talk with you. Weird. That's why whenever we got gathering & you are around I tend to talk less. & that's why sometimes I bring you out without the rest.
Even after meeting so many new people, I still put you in my list of VVIP in my heart. Don't ask me why. I don't know. Yeah you are even in my top prayer list. So I guess that I do really cherish you as my friend. Thanks for being my friend, & appeared in my life.
To other readers: all this may sound "fishy" but IT'S NOT
Dunno why I write this. Suddenly found the picture punya pasal lah.
Got this idea to write after watching some movies. Lolz.
But it's kinda true & applies to all groups, organizations, companies.
Imagine this scenario:
A student just came into a new martial arts school. He told the master that he wanna learn from him. He respected the master as the head of the school. The master saw good potential in the student & he told him that he wanted to teach the student, mentor & disciple him.
The master loved all his students but favor is another issue. The master favors students who show promising potentials. But that doesn't mean the master do not love the less potential students. The master gave equal chance to all students to prove themselves & sometimes deliberately test them without the students knowing it. Of course this one potential student passed all he tests & tasks, it pleases the master & he found favor in the master's eye.
But the master saw some problem with the student. Whenever the master tries to teach, the student always has his own styles & ideas. A little of those is OK. It can be used as base for improvement & creativity. Soon after the master realized it's not just a bit. The student is too full of his own thinking, idea & agenda that it's hard to train this student as he does not flow along with the teaching of the school anymore.
"If your cup is full with water, how can you expect me to fill it with oil for you? All the oils will be spilled out. If you still want me to fill your cup with oil, spill out all the waters in your cup first."
All the student managed to learn is the martial arts, not the principles & heart of it. Well if you all watched enough kung-fu films then you all can expect what will happen to the student. He got derailed from the path. He may acquire the martial arts skills from the master, but because his ways are different, he can no longer be used to further the development of the school.
"It's all about you ways, what you think, it's always your "I think", "I believe". When are you going to listen to our ways, our ideals, our plans?"
& then sure got interesting kung-fu fight in the end...negk ngek ngek
Recently this term "Kuasa Wanita" came to my mind after a serious of display on how female voice can be 100x more effective in moving the heavy lazy butts of some males.
Examples:
A guy invited his housemate for badminton. But his housemate refuses. Then the guy decided to call one of the lady that is joining the badminton telling her that not enough people, & she asked to invite the guy's housemate. He told her that his housemate don't want & she asked him to pass the phone to her. After talking with his housemate for a while, she managed to get his housemate's heavy butt to move. Immediately he agrees to join, just because of "Kuasa Wanita", saying "long time never see her" because she is his ex-housemate. So means his current housemate has not enough "power" (because he is a male)?
A guy invited his junior for lunch & he did not accept. The guy's friend, a lady also invited his junior for the same time same lunch & the friend accepted the offer (the friend did not know that both of them planned the lunch together). The weird things is the friend did not accept the offer of his senior but accepts the offer of the lady, which he just knew very recently. "Kuasa Wanita" & the junior just got to know the lady when the senior is present together as well. So the recently just get to know lady has more "power" than his known longer & closer senior (because he is a male)?
There are many more but one point is true. Females are better in persuading males to move their lazy butt. Perhaps it's not even about persuasive power. I think it's more about female attractiveness not persuasiveness. I do not mean romance or love interest. It's simply the opposite gender power. Works more on guys.
Moral of the story:
If you want to move a guy's heavy butt, get a lady to do it.
It happens with intention
It happens with purpose
It happens with reason
It happens with action
It happens with plan
If it happens naturally,
Why is the Great Commission there?
And Jesus came and spoke to them, saying, "All authority has been given to Me in heaven and on earth. Go therefore and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all things that I have commanded you; and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age." (Matthew 28:18-20)
There’s a purpose for each of us to be placed & born in such a time as this & in such a place as this. We are being sent forth by God to this nation at this time. We are watchman for God over this world. We are called to intercede for our community & nation. We are to be accountable before God over this nation & our community. We are to establish the kingship & reign of God in this world. We are to expand the kingdom of God now & here. This is our purpose as Malaysian Christian now & here.
We must embrace our role as Malaysian, & children of God that live in this age of modernization & globalization. 3 most prominent roles in the Bible are priests, prophets, & kings, & they pray! Although we are not officially priest, prophet & king, but we can have a priestly prayer, a prophetic prayer, & a kingly prayer. Prayer is equated to be oxygen to Christians. Prayer enables God to move in our life, through us.
A priest is someone who stands in the gap between human & God. Priest goes to God on behalf of men & goes to men on behalf of God. Being a priest means that you have to intercede for people. A priest also must have confidence & assurance that God hears & because of this a priest is to be set apart & sanctified for the work. God calls us to be His priests even at this time & place, to be set apart & sanctified, to have a heart for the people of Malaysia & intercede for them. Pray with intercession of a priest!
Exodus 19:6
You will be for me a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.
1 Peter 2:9
But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wonderful light.
A prophet is someone who calls the people to align themselves to the proclaimed word & will of God. Prophet is to proclaim the things of God to the people. Prophet speaks forth the will of God, & delivers the word of God into the situation of the people. Prophet can only do such things if he sees & understands the purpose & will of God. In the same way we must have the same prophetic vision from God for Malaysia, especially in end times where the Holy Spirit is being poured. Pray prophetically! Proclaim & speak forth!
1 Chronicles 12:32
...men of Issachar who understood the times and knew what Israel should do...
Luke 4:18-19
The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because He has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim freedom for the prisoners and recovery of sight for the blind, to release the oppressed, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor.
A king is given authority over things of the kingdom. King is always regarded as god’s agent in all cultures. King is to bring order, especially God’s order in the OT. A king is also accountable for his people & the situation in the nation, a steward of God in the nation. All authority in this world came from God, & God has given us the authority in Christ over the world & we are supposed to establish the Kingdom of God in our nation of Malaysia. We have a kingly role to play here for our King Jesus. Take up our spiritual authority! Pray in authority against the enemy!
Genesis 1:28
God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
Revelation 5:10
You have made them to be a kingdom and priest to serve our God, and they will reign on the earth.
So as Christian living in Malaysia in this critical time, let us pray with heart of a priest to intercede for people, with vision of a prophet to proclaim for nation, & with authority of a king to reign for Christ.
Abba Father in heaven, you are the LORD my God. You are also the lord of my passion, & the lord of my people. I thank you for your work & hand upon them. I wanna thank you for what you had done. I wanna thank you for the resource & skills & inner man that you gave me for all this. I thank you for you are leading me with your inspirations. I do not know how well I spoke of your words but it's not all about what I said. It's about the move & convictions of Holy Ghost. I thank you for the visions & signs that you had shown. I thank you for you confirmations & promises upon my ministry. Now I know o Lord, that it is not I who delivers, but it is by your leading. Now I know it is not me alone as human but I see your hand of partnership upon me now. Help me o Lord, to continue to motivate, to challenge, to inspire, to instill your words to them. Empower & anoint me more to speak forth life, blessings, wealth, health, into their lives. I recognize I'm your beloved servant sent here to fulfill your purpose. I put my trust in you, for you had called me to for this. All glory & praise to your Name, for you are their God, the great I AM, LORD. In the name of Christ Jesus, Amen.
